Fatigue is often seen as negative, but it’s actually woven into daily life and part of the well-being experience.
After an intense two weeks of work and personal challenges, the author reflects on a weekend marked by a pleasant tiredness, one that allows space for ideas to emerge.
Rather than forcing productivity even in rest, embracing this gentle fatigue can create cognitive space for creativity and recovery.
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A simple moment, opening a stubborn can of tuna, becomes a window into metacognition: the mind observing its own thinking. This self-awareness sharpens decision-making and reduces unnecessary rumination.
By grounding, feeling contact with the environment, we create distance to see the structure of thought itself. With this practice, clarity replaces noise, allowing more deliberate actions and less mental friction throughout life.
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The writer describes a day lived in “active presence”, fully experiencing the moment without frantic doing. Shifting away from the pressure to constantly act, he finds relaxation, insights, and renewed cognitive energy.
This awareness expands mental bandwidth, reduces intrusive thoughts, and enhances agency. Even small engagements like reading or playing become richer.
True well-being, he suggests, comes from mindful presence, not pressured productivity.
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Two mistakes this week. Dinner with Friends, board games. Taboo, game I love. Bad. Greta: ‘Strange, you usually do well.’ Friend smiling: ‘I was hoping we’d win, I had my ChatGPT on the team.’ Wasn’t just the headache. It was rigidity where lightness was needed. Let the mind go, live the moment with serenity. Not ‘don’t think, act’ from movies. Different. And the other mistake? Blog, excerpts. AI copy-paste without my eye. Result: telegraphic posts. My mantra: human at the center, AI tool. And then here the mistake. Both same problem: glass in the wrong box. Lightness boxed as ‘don’t think’. AI boxed as ‘does everything’. I saw, recognized. Now correcting. Right box.
Two mistakes, one lesson: when the glass is in the wrong box Read Post »
Rumination is a bitch, damn if it’s a bitch. Pardon my French but these are the perfect words. That client who owes you money? The mind starts grinding anger, wraps around itself, infinite loop. And transforms a person with mistakes into a Public Enemy Number One. Objective data multiplied tenfold, monsters created. Then talking it resolves, but the wound remains because of our attitude. Techniques like breathing and grounding help. But content is also needed. It’s not immediate, it’s not easy. It’s possible.
Rumination: the bitch that devours your mind Read Post »
Doing for the sake of doing. That Italian culture where if you don’t do immediately you’re lazy, useless, lost in chatter. But Steve Jobs didn’t solder iPhones. Enzo Ferrari didn’t assemble engines. Toto Wolff doesn’t change tires in the pit. They allowed the brain to work before doing. Systematic approach: hours thinking about design of a detail, then a 2-hour meeting that changes the entire product. You don’t need to be Jobs to apply this. Stop 10 minutes before the event and think about table organization. The mechanism is identical on a small scale. Systematic approach isn’t for the unreachable. It’s for anyone who wants to do well, not just a lot.
The myth of “Doing”: why Jobs and Ferrari don’t just do for the sake of doing Read Post »
Well-being, not forced happiness. Christmas becomes obligation to be happy. Sky-high expectations, perfect gifts, lavish dinners, then inevitable down. Forced happiness is temporary peak followed by crash. I’ve never lived Christmas well, I admit it. Marco noticed and I’m sorry. Gift made thinking about person’s core becomes meaningful, but when it becomes work task it loses meaning. I lived Christmas as corporate project: Christmas Eve, Christmas, Boxing Day. Close everything by December 23rd, ready January 7th. Result? Maximum stress, short circuit. This year first step: made the forcings background noise, focused on happy children. Well-being allows happiness to emerge naturally. Without expectations that crush.
Well-being, not happiness: rethinking Christmas Read Post »
Positive discomfort. Finally. The hardest part of managing a mental restructuring process? Managing discomfort. We presume it’s wrong, a problem. Actually it’s the best part. It shows the change is happening. Client asks for free help: Wolf approach. Mini analysis, compromise, conditions. First boundary: I respond outside hours deliberately. Second: I oppose, strong discomfort, don’t respond immediately. He writes again, shows real interest. Third boundary: I set limits. Difficult? Without a shadow of doubt. Doable? Absolutely yes. Discomfort? Present, strong. But signal it was working. Discomfort is not an enemy. It’s a signal you’re truly changing. And that’s okay.
Discomfort is not an enemy: why change hurts (and that’s okay) Read Post »
Restructuring. Not the house. Myself. And in a house under renovation, it’s normal not to find the glass. Three rooms: kitchen (cognitive abilities), living room (relationships), bedroom (deep me and family). The kitchen is complete, sparkling. Metacognition, reticular thinking, everything ready. Living room in full work, objects boxed. Bedroom just started, the most delicate. This week I forgot household tasks. Banal things. With my memory it shouldn’t happen. Instead of worrying, I understood: I’m restructuring. Cognitive energy goes elsewhere. The glass is boxed, not lost. It happens. Not a problem. Unexpected things happen: broken pipe, power cut. Part of the process. That’s okay.
Renovating: why you can’t find the glass (and that’s okay) Read Post »
The bias I named has evolved. No longer frontal attack but subtle strategy: lateral attacks to refill cognitive bandwidth, cut supplies, block liberating activities. But I saw them in time. The twenty-six year war (18 years → 44 years) continues. The rhizome expands: me, the Friend with whom I exchange philosophical audio, others. Concentric circles, not hierarchy. Themistocles at Salamis: not brute force but strategy. Yesterday: Victoria 3, chaos orchestrator. Golf swing empties mind. The bias counterattacks. But I’m ready. The ball is mine.
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